Co-founder Nicky Heppenstall attended an exhibition this week, helping to explore baby loss and child loss and break the taboo.
“The clue is in the title – Remembering Baby – the opposite of forgetting baby, which used to be the way such loss was approached, as if that life never happened, never existed and never mattered. As a member of a club nobody expects or wants to join, the exhibits resonated with my own experience of loss and the fact that my beautiful daughter, who never took a breath, is just as big a part of my life as my living breathing children are.”
The exhibition is currently on in London and Sheffield but has been so well received that there are plans for it to travel, which it absolutely should.
The wooden boxes contain items (not originals, but similar) which mean something to a person who has suffered a loss, or to a health professional who deals with baby loss – for example, a music player whose owner is a mortuary technician who sings to the deceased babies in their care, and a music box which plays in the viewing room adjacent to the mortuary when a family come to see their lost baby; footprints, baby-grows, a lock of hair, which are more obvious mementos, a stillbirth certificate, a toy dinosaur because that was their son’s nursery theme….
A video plays (featuring actors) where health professionals (a pathologist, an obstetrician) speak about the families they meet and how they look after them and their babies “Of course you remember cases. I remember all my babies, some ones more than others.
It is clear that remembering a lost baby is incredibly important. People have attended workshops run by the team behind Remembering Baby where they have been able to explore their memories and create items that represent those memories in a tangible way. An impression scrunched into paper of a baby cardigan, framed in a box frame is so simple but so effective a way of capturing something tangible.
We sincerely hope to see this exhibition tour across the UK.
For more information about the exhibition please click HERE.
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